Married with Friends

I'm really struggling lately with pleasing people. In certain areas, I've grown to a point where I realize it's not my responsibility nor in my power to please people, so I can try to sort of move on to finding that middle ground of considering others more highly than myself and being a slave to no man.

I know that I'm not married. Boy, do I know it. But since getting back from Peru, I work, I plan the wedding, and I see Aaron. Those three things pretty much take up most of my days and weeks. Is that wrong? I have felt so much pressure to spend time with other people. I don't want to ignore them or be self-centered - I want to encourage the body and love the Church and work on relationships.

But when I get married, doesn't how I can do that change? At least at the beginning. Deuteronomy 24:5 says that

"If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married."

So, we don't take a one-year honeymoon nowadays, but that's the principle. Several wise people have suggested we do the same: have no major committments the first year, outside of what is absolutely necessary; don't do anything but get to know each other at least the first month of marriage; recognize that since your priorities are shifting so will the closeness of your other relationships.

Is that right? Why do I feel so much pressure to keep up with people like I was able to do before I left for Peru? You married people out there: how does it work?